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When cancer is diagnosed, it is not only the person diagnosed who experiences concerns about the future - but also the relatives and friends. In fact, studies have shown that levels of distress are just as high in the next of kin as in the patient! That is why we think of cancer as a family disease and recognize that support is needed by the family members as well as the patient. Other studies show that helping the spouse of a cancer patient cope better has a substantial effect upon the patients ability to cope and can work like a ripple effect.
The best way to counter that initial overwhelming fear which accompanies a diagnosis of cancer is to get the best information available about cancer and its treatment and to begin to cope with the psychological impact. The need for commitment to a course of positive action is an important way of beginning to cope.
What can I read? is an increasingly common question. Advice for the caring family and friends has been sparse but this valuable little book begins to fill the gap. It carries the added weight of having been written by the Blochs who speak with the voice of experience - and who share how it felt to be given a three month prognosis. The commitment to finding treatment and not giving up is a success story we all benefit from today.
Part I is a powerful review of the what it feels like of cancer. Written for the healthy spouses of patients it gives important practical advice about helping the ill spouse. An important message is the value of providing support and access to good information, but not at the expense of taking the decision making away and respecting the persons individuality and need for independence. We live in an era when some books suggest there is only one correct way (their way) to face cancer and those who dont are doomed. The Blochs encourage respect for each persons coping style and their right to use it. The spouse is an important force in making the patient feel guilty for not using a particular method, or in feeling empowered and confident because they feel supported by their spouse in their handling of their cancer.
More attention to helping the helper is needed and hence, the value of this book, especially for spouses. The spouse must simultaneously support the patient, manage the home and family, make the living, manage the insurance forms, arrange visits to the doctor, share discussions about cancer, and answer all the well-meaning calls asking How is Joe? but rarely, How are you? The strains, borne without much recognition or praise, are difficult. More of our efforts must be directed to assure the spouse copes, since so much rests on the healthy adult. The Well Spouse foundation is a self help organization which has developed out of awareness of this need.
Part II is an excellent brief introduction to cancer therapies which is useful as one hears these words for the first time in a personal context.
Part III is directed to the casual friend who suffers from Do I visit my friend with cancer? What do I say? Will it be the wrong thing? Advice to reduce self-consciousness and affirmation of the need to keep ties which antedate the onset of cancer comes through clearly in this practical guide.
Last, biographies sometimes tell more than all the do as I say advice reveals. Dick Blochs biography is a powerful call to arms at the books end, sharing how one couple coped and won. It is well worth emulating!
-- Jimmie C. Holland, M.D., Director, Psychiatric Oncology, Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center

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