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You are a target for a narcissist because your previous relationships or family history involves experiences of abuse, narcissism, etc pulls him or her in as your savior at first.

It is worse if you dont have any templates for relationships you have nothing to compare with.

Some people are so accustomed to being abused in the past that when a narcissist traps them, it just is normal.

For you to be a perfect victim for a narcissist does not just happen overnight. You could have been molded by your previous encounters in the past narcissistic parents or relatives or previous dysfunctional romantic relationships.

If you dont break the cycles of abuse or narcissism in your life, you go from one broken relationship to another.

The overly empathetic person also is a very good target for a narcissistic person because you are an emotional sponge and also an endless supply for an emotional vampire.

This kind of person is easy to manipulate because they are open and willing to go above and beyond to fix the narcissists issues. You believe that you can save him or her from them but you are wrong.

When you are empathetic, it is very difficult for you to escape your abuser because you overly compromise your emotions and feelings hoping that tomorrow would be better.

Every time you try to leave a narcissist, they will use your empathetic nature against you.

He or she cares to threaten to kill themselves if you leave.

You fall into the narcissistic trap because you dont know any better. Usually, they find you in moments when you are helpless or hopeless. We all have been there.

A narcissist is so good at their game that they appear to be the solution when you need it the most.

Accepting a narcissist does not make you a bad or weak person; we all have moments of weakness. That is human nature if you dont treat yourself as the victim that you already are, you learn so much about yourself and your abuser.

Maybe you needed to learn that lesson. Maybe a narcissist raised you to be a narcissist magnet because you were their prey.

The difference between surviving a narcissist and accepting abuse is the ability to remove yourself from the situation and see the situation for what it is.

Whether you are a victim or perpetrator, we all have roles to play.

Sometimes I think that there is a part of a narcissist that thrives in negativity and this is the reason why he or she arouses negative emotions out of you by causing you stress so that you can feel as sad as they do.

I have fallen ill when around a narcissist and you share responsibilities, a narcissist will still not feel empathy for you.

They will minimize their overbearing behaviors but he or she will expect you to have the extra courage to either heal faster or do stuff for them even though you dont feel 100. It is like you are slacking at the job of being their emotional punching bag. Falling sick is more of a weakness than a natural process. You are not supposed to be weak they are always the victims.

Sometimes a narcissist is like a 5-year-old who is constantly overbearing you are constantly busy Psychologically, Emotionally, and Physically.
If you fall sick over a prolonged period, a narcissist gets impatient; they start to mirror your pains or sickness so that he or she can appear weaker so that you can go back to your normal routine of being their emotional feeding source.

They are incapable of channeling their emotions in the right way at the right time for the right reasonsthat is why being with them is toxic. It fucks you up in every way emotionally and psychologically.

A narcissist is also afraid of being alone and also at the same time, he or she gets uncomfortable around being around too many people at the same because they have to isolate their victims.

They can only prey on a group of people at the same time because firstly, people will recognize patterns of his or her narcissistic behaviors and call them out.

Yet again, a group of people can work together and go against the narcissist or influence his prey to run. He or she can not afford those risks so they stay in isolation with their victims.

Since a narcissist feeds off attention from other people as well, they will not stay in isolation for so long. They always have routines.

If you are dating a narcissist, you will realize that they control your finances somehow. They know what is always going on with you. They track your schedule yet you have no idea what is going on with theirs.

He or she goes out with their friends occasionally and you are always stuck in the house either taking care of your children or doing things that benefit them. Remember that you are always working for a narcissist in some form even though it is a relationship you feel like you are responsible for doing their job.

To the outsiders, you are always the unsocial partner. The one who neighbors think is strange because you never go out to meet new people or you are always away.

If you have a joint business with a narcissist, you are always doing the heavy lifting. Always working and taking care of things.

You are lucky if you are not entangled in his or her vices like gambling, affairs, theft, or some shrewd business. There is always something a narcissist is not telling you because they dont want you to play with the right cards.

Remember they twist your mind so that you are their puppet every time they flip the switch.

You are never allowed to be yourself, think for yourself, or feel for yourselfthey want to be in control of you in every way because that is what he or she knows.

It is easy for them to get paranoid and they end up doing impulsive behaviors that usually cost you your sanity. A narcissist can change from I love you to cheating on you in 30 minutes if they suspect that you are cheating even though it is not true.

It is tit for tat and they want to always have the upper hand.
They have no empathy or respect for you because he or she is incapable of feeling what you are feeling.

A narcissist is either incapable of feeling emotions or they do but they are always experiencing misplaced emotions wrong emotions at the wrong time.

If you feel misunderstood all the time when you talk to him or her, there is a good reason why.

When you talk to them, you feel like you are talking past each other. If you are someone who enjoys meaningful discussions, you are either always exhausted from trying to make yourself heard or you spend so much time trying to make the narcissist listen to common sense. Its like you are trying to snap him or her out of their mind and back to reality.

Is narcissistic behavior good for them? Yes, I believe that this is their way of winning manipulation is a game they play best at. You cannot cure a narcissist of experience.

But on the other hand, narcism, in general, gets in the way of their success. It is a double-edged sword. They easily self-sabotage if a situation is going well or self-destruct if the situation calls for it.
Watch out!

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